Are
you a worrier? Would you like to stop?
The
reason we worry is that we have a situation in front of
us and we are scared that it won't work out. We are afraid
that we will make the wrong decision (again), fail, or look
bad in front of others. This fear keeps us from seeing a
way out.
In addition,
you get something out of worrying. As long as you worry,
then you don't have to do anything about what's troubling
you. If some outside thing is happening to you, then you
don't have to take any responsibility for how it happened.
Plus, you get to blame whomever you please and you get to
be right.
If you
could only trust that it will work out and that you will
be able to handle whatever comes your way, then you could
put your worrying behind you and focus on something more
positive instead.
So how
do you stop worrying?
1. Acknowledge
That You Are Worried. Sometimes, we will tell ourselves
all sorts of crazy things so we don't have to admit that
we are worried. This only works against you. How can you
expect to get past your worry if you can't even admit that
you are feeling it?
2. Take
a Deep Breath. It's amazing how much better we feel when
we start breathing again. Worry tenses up our bodies until
we are in a state of panic. Sure adrenaline will get you
going, but isn't there a healthier way? Take a few deep
breaths and watch the worry float into the air.
3. Let
Go of The Outcome. If things work out in the end anyway
(and they usually do) then what you are doing to yourself
in the process is a waste of your energy. (Unless you enjoy
giving yourself a hard time.) This is key. You get past
anxiety by letting the universe do what it has planned.
Go with the flow. You will be a happier person in the process.
4. Have
Fun. Your world does not have to be about doom and gloom
just because you are facing a situation that you are unsure
of how it will turn out. Go out and have fun. You deserve
it even if you don't feel that you do.
5. Say
Nicer Things To Yourself. Sure you can blame yourself for
worrying or for getting into a particular situation in the
first place, but is this the best use of your time? Positive
thinking will clear your mind and bring freedom into your
life. It will also clear the way to finding a solution.
6. Reach
Out To Others. If you are going to worry, don't do it by
yourself. It's nice to have a shoulder to lean on. Plus,
you can get perspective so much quicker if you just reach
out to others. And, you might even find out that your problem
is not as bad as you thought.
7. Take
Action. Once you take steps toward finding a solution to
what you are worrying about, you will have power and control
back in your life. It may not be easy to take the next step
when you don't know what that next step is, but it is better
than taking no steps at all. Small steps take you to the
next step, which takes you closer to a solution. And, you
will feel better.
Copyright 2008 - Tracy Laswell Valdez, Recruiter | Job Search Consultant,
CAREER-Magic.com, 303-424-1700 | tracy@career-magic.com.
